Someone sent me this text message: "The highest pain in life is to sit just beside a person you love a lot and know the fact that the person can never be yours in this lifetime."

While I discussed about this with a friend, he told me...."If I talk about love, I needn't own and call something/someone mine.The moment I own, I wield authority over it. Where there's authority, love is absent. If you love someone a lot, there's no need for that someone to be yours (your own) at all!"

Then, why is a person possessive of his/her spouse? Is this not authority?
If love cannot be in a place where there is authority...then can it be if there is possessiveness?
If one is not possessive about the one he/she loves, then is it really love?
One in love likes it if someone's possessive of them, isn't it?